By Steve Wells
We can’t get to where we want to be using the same level of thinking that got us to where we are now. – Einstein
Nor can we get there as long as we remain attached to the feelings that we are attached to now! – Steve Wells
Your success is on the other stage of your current comfort zone. In order to be successful in the ways which you want to be, you will need to move beyond your current comfort zone. To do this means (obviously) being willing to do some things that currently make you feel uncomfortable. It also may involve detaching from the (false) pleasure connected to your current activities, the things that currently “seem” to make your life more comfortable but which ultimately hold you back. Fortunately, tapping can be a powerful ally to help you with this challenge.
Your past conditioning has led you here. Conditioning that tells you that it will be physically painful to get out of bed to do your exercise program. Or that it will be emotionally painful to make that call to sell your product or service. Now you must release your attachment to those conditioned patterns of thinking, feeling, and acting which keep you locked into your current position and prevent you from having the more expansive and successful life that you really desire. First, however, you must decide where you want to go…
In E.M Gray’s famous essay, The Common Denominator of Success, he writes:
“The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don’t do. They don’t like doing them either necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose.”
Now before you think that I am going to encourage you to “feel the fear and do it anyway” or use Nike’s famous “just do it” quote, I’m not. Although that can work, with tapping we can do better.
Let’s look again at Gray’s quote. He rightly points out that it is the difference in ACTION that makes the greatest difference between people who succeed and those who don’t. The absolute key, however, is in his second sentence where he states (emphasis mine): “their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose. ” What he means is that those who are successful have found something BIGGER that makes taking these uncomfortable actions worthwhile. They have found something purposeful, something meaningful to focus towards. An ultimate pleasure which makes all the pain worthwhile.
And that is the starting point for all significant life change: What would give your life greater meaning? What would be worthwhile creating or achieving? What would be worth taking massive action for? It’s connecting in with that worthwhile future where we need to begin.
Do you have a purpose for your life? Have you identified a meaningful destination towards which you would like to strive? Do you even know what you really want?
Ask yourself the above questions and tap on the energy points while you seek to answer them. If you encounter negativity and resistance, that is great! Tapping on that negativity and resistance is the first step towards releasing your negative attachments and improving your life. You can even write your objections and negative beliefs down as they arise, as externalising them can be a great first step towards bringing them into the light and reducing their power over you. Tapping, however, is the main thing here, as tapping can help to release the feelings in the body that are linked to these thoughts, and it is these feelings which make them seem so powerful. By interrupting the thought-feeling connection we can start to weaken a negative belief structure which has been holding us down, and free ourselves up to see more clearly where we want to go and how we can get there.
In the next edition we will look at how tapping be used to help you take the crucial first steps outside your comfort zone and towards your meaningful life goals.
What do you think? We would love to read your comments.