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"I consider meeting you as one of my life's blessings. The workshop you both presented in San Francisco was a wonderful experience for me. You are the greatest teachers I know (that is meant as an ultimate compliment coming from another teacher). Everyday since the workshop I have continued to utilize the fabulous techniques you taught) and I share the techniques and successful results with my students, friends, and co-workers."
Sherri Pagliari, participant in San Francisco workshop
"I'm the most relaxed I have been in at least a year and my body is humming with a fantastic sense of wellbeing I'd almost believed I'd never experience again. I feel fantastic! I feel strong, sharp, alert, happy, excited, energised, and motivated, and my stress level has dropped by a couple of orders of magnitude..."
Michael Knight, Perth Western Australia
"I took the EFT training from you and David in South San Francisco, last year...and it was GREAT!!!! I had had previous experience with EFT and your workshop really was fabulous!! You are both such excellent practitioners."
Richard Olson, MH.
"Steve and Dave possess a truly remarkable set of therapy skills. Their live demonstrations model the excellence of their work in a richly communicative way. Their blend of provocative therapy & EFT is fascinating."
Steve B. Reed, LPC, LMSW, LMFT, Psychotherapist, Dallas, Texas
"A heartfelt thanks for the invaluable, transformative time in San Francisco. You two are an awesome team!! Having medicine and psychology as a background allows you to present EFT on a different level ... and gave me a deeper understanding of its application. I am so grateful ... and you need to know that your contributions to my development as an EFT practitioner as well as to my own personal spiritual transformation has been mindboggling."
Gabrielle Duebendorfer, ND, participant in San Francisco workshop
"...thanks for a terrific workshop in Sydney. More humour and genuine laughter in those four days that in all my other workshops of umpteen modalities combined... But most importantly, I learned heaps..."
Alun Vaughan, Counsellor, Sydney, New South Wales, Australia
"Watching Steve Wells conduct a workshop on Peak Performance at an international energy psychology conference in Las Vegas, was to be in the presence of a major workshop leader and teacher as well as a keenly intuitive therapist. His comments were brilliantly targeted, his handling of participants' issues masterful, and he was often delightfully witty. I cannot recommend emphatically enough that you reserve one of the valuable spots in one of his workshops before they are filled!"
Dr. Patricia Carrington, Ph.D.
"I immensely enjoyed the workshop, and learned a lot... The numerous demos were awesome! I loved the provocative therapy and the humor. But mostly, I loved the energy that both of you brought to the seminar: unconditional acceptance, complete generosity and sharing of your expertise, and your upbeat attitudes... It was a delight to attend your workshop, and I look forward to my friends' experiencing that wonderful Australian Dynamic Duo energy...!"
Barbara Hagerman, EFT Practitioner, Participant in San Francisco workshop
"Hi Steve and David,
Thank you so much for a fabulous weekend... I felt fantastic today. So much lighter, happier and just feeling good about the world. It's been a while since I have truly felt like this. So another big thank you to you both for the wonderful work that you are doing. I look forward to more workshops with you guys."
Linda Foster, Kinesiologist, participant in Sydney workshop
"The combination of professionalism, sense of humour and true creativity that you both bring to this work is astounding - truly a one-of-a-kind experience.
I have found that your approach combining Provocative Therapy and EFT not only gets to deep core issues quickly, but the laughter is ever so healing. I think you are right in that when someone laughs at that level while doing EFT, they can never go back to the same stuck place they were before. Thank you again for inviting me to your workshop. I haven't looked back."
Maggie Adkins, Energy Therapist
"My instincts had sent me to your workshop without ever seeing EFT practiced. In fact, I had just read about it in Gary's newsletter, your e-mails and a few articles. I felt it to be a path for me and I have learned to listen to my little voice ... WOW!! In working with EFT, I feel my intuition is so enhanced with the process. Thank you for all your, Steve's and Gary's wisdom ... I have come home!
Peace and Success."
Lenore Beck, Coach, participant in San Francisco workshop
I just wanted to thank you and Steve for the excellent content of the workshop last weekend in Sydney. Since I've returned to the Gold Coast I have already utilised your 'provocative' approach in respect of three clients I had been working with - with excellent results! I have been using EFT (and BSFF) for nearly 5 years now here on the Gold Coast and love it's power and potency. Your approach has opened up a valuable avenue in the energy therapies for me for which I'm grateful... I just wanted to express my thanks for highlighting this extra methodology!"
Samuel Smith, EFT Practitioner
"I would like to express my impressions on your work shop, like this: PET -makes impossible things possible. I am a doctor, a physician. I'm trained to be sceptical about everything that is not scientifically evidence based. There is a reason why I came to this seminar though. The scientifically proven stuff is not enough, to help people. So I'm looking over the fence. The first day of the seminar I almost succeeded in holding on to my beliefs; i.e. - you can not talk with people about their problems like this, so right on the spot, no mumbling, no humbling, goings around the hot spot. When first listening to a PET-session, my own cognitive limitations came up like a couple of policemen not wanting to cooperate at all. To be the PET-patient was another thing. The provocative style was like having a sauna bath, relieving, refreshing, just great, clear thoughts, limiting beliefs gone.
Other participants at the seminar, all more or less sceptical, did sessions with David Lake and Steve Wells, and had that noticeable cognitive shift, the point where the problem is no longer a problem. Relationship treatment- a brave couple came up with their problems - was magic. The PET method turned their problems into something more like a sincerely happy marriage. So when the sun rose the second day of the seminar, I was convinced, by the results of the PET method, and not only by the great performers, David and Steve."
Eva Maria Lundell MD, participant in Munich Workshop
"Dear Kristelle and Kerry,
First, please note that the slight delay in responding is due to computer problems, here, and not to any reluctance whatsoever to express my keen satisfaction and gratitude for the whole 4-1/2 day experience with David and Steve. They are each wholly effective on their own, and their styles so enhance one another's that the effectiveness of the course is more than doubled. And the material, well, I was a complete novice where EFT is concerned, and already I can see how it is permeating every aspect of my life, personally and professionally, and my optimism valve has never been so wide open not since childhood, anyway.
So many of my keenest interests and experiences came together with a new clarity in the light of this perspective, it was utterly fascinating to me! And even if that were not so, it would have been worth going just to be with so many extraordinary people under those circumstances.
Right from the start, the enthusiasm for the potential of this technique as presented by David and Steve disarmed our guardedness, and I felt the participation was wholehearted for the great majority of participants. It was equal parts exhausting and exhilarating for me, and were it not for y'all's highly considerate attention to all the practical aspects of our gathering, the former may have tipped the scales, just for the intensity of it all. Fortunately the laughter was as potent as the tears, or even more so; and altogether I'd have to call it a watershed experience, one that tops all others of its kind in my personal history. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
And I surely hope to see you for lift off in October!"
Professional Singer and Singing Instructor
"Just a short note to express my appreciation to all of you for what you helped me learn and achieve at the Peak Performance workshop... your willingness to share your perceptions (and in some cases, your "soul"!) helped me immensely in my own professional and personal growth. Thanks, and Godspeed in your future growth and accomplishments!
P.S. On a "fun" note, had my first hot air balloon ride on Wednesday morning! I had "forgotten" that I had a "fear of heights" until the wicker basket was gently rising above the desert, and then I began to wonder what I had signed up for! However, three rounds of tapping (for the fear of heights) and another two (for the panicky feeling engendered by the noise of the burners) did the trick, and I had a blast!
P.P.S.: And then, NEVER one to pass up an opportunity, worked for 20 minutes with a young salesperson at the Discovery store (Denver airport terminal) on HER fear of heights: Her initial SUDs level was a 9; after a couple of rounds of tapping, it was down to nearly zero. I then asked her to imagine that she was near a 50-foot stepladder, and suggested that she could climb it as high as she wished, counting off each step as she went up. She went first to 20 feet, then to 30 feet, and then was able to 'climb' all the way to 50 once I suggested that she could 'place' a really thick, soft cushion all around the stepladder. After another round, she was then comfortable with "removing" the imaginary cushion ('cuz her 4 foot thick cushion would be a REALLY bulky thing to have to carry around!) and still could 'climb' to 50 feet.
We then took the escalator up to a second floor area, which overlooked the main floor. She was able to walk to within 6 feet of the railing, but no closer. We did another round, and she could move a few steps closer, and after another round, she could stand at the railing (holding on to it tightly!). After another round of tapping ("Even though I'm scared to stand here without holding on to the railing....") she did not need the railing for emotional support.
So, while it may not have been a '5 minute wonder', she was VERY happy (as well as puzzled that it was possible!). Such fun!-"
Charles Reinert ND, PhD
"I don't know if you remember or not, but you worked with me in front of the group during the Peak Performance Workshop. We worked on my feelings dealing with the local Hospital using me as their referral for EFT. Also, the fact that I had to have a representative from the hospital come and have a treatment......I didn't have an office at the time and they would have to come to my home.
Okay, so.....as of today, I now have an office, which just feel into place with no effort what so ever. The representative from the hospital came today and "tested" me, and I "passed". We worked on a phobia that she had and EFT took care of it. She gave me her "okay" on the spot and all went great. (I wasn't the least bit nervous, in fact, she asked me if all my sessions are so much fun, I used some of what you taught in the workshop I took from you in New York).
Thanks for your help!!!
Hope to see you at the workshop in October.
Diane Thal Gluck
"Dear David and Steve
Enthusiastic thank yous for the transformational Self-Acceptance workshop I attended in Albuquerque ...
When I decided to attend I wasn't sure whether I placed a greater importance on my own personal healing or expanding my expertise as a hypnotherapist. My expectations were greatly exceeded on both counts.
Although I have been using EFT successfully with clients for several years, the fine tuning and addition of the PET techniques have profoundly expanded my effectiveness these past weeks. I am amazed at how much more quickly and comfortably clients have been moving through their issues, pain and trauma. I have received several phone calls after the sessions in which I have used these techniques thanking me for, as one client said, 'bringing me the first feeling of peace I have had in months'.
My own personal journey has continued using the techniques on myself. I am uncovering layers of issues that I have been aware of, but have not been able to release for years. What a valuable tool you have given me.
The two of you are so effective together - patient, articulate and hilariously funny. I found myself listening raptly for two and half days and cannot believe how much I laughed while dealing with the sensitive personal subjects we covered with volunteers in the class. Look out, Batman and Robin. You two are indeed the dynamic duo.
I have enrolled in the (PET) certification class and cannot wait for the next level of my continuing growth.
Lynda Malerstein, C. Ht. Power Journeys Hypnosis
We also received this follow up email from Helen:
"Bless you Steve and EFT - after you did 3 rounds in April on my shakes as part of a group session on phobias - mine was fear (terror) of public speaking - I felt quite comfortable. Of course putting it into action was another thing. I have since spoken to six groups with up to 20 people and loved it, felt very comfortable and am working on several more talks. Edwin (my husband - we are a team) was there too but he complains he can barely get a word in - I am so confident and won't shut up. Not bad - 5 minutes to liberation after 50 years of fear.
Regards and thanks again - will see you in November."
"Thought you might be interested in our little holiday EFT session. We did a senior's tour for the first week - 22 people including us. Bus trips every day in a small bus from 9am to about 3-4pm. One night the person next door coughed especially loud all night and kept Edwin awake - he said he wanted to try EFT on her. She was willing to try but her husband was Very skeptical. She has been to doctors and specialists for months and no one could help her. Edwin decided we should ask the motel owners if we could do a group talk after dinner. (Most were 70 plus and I didn't know how it would go down) Well we got our coughing lady up and suggested those that wanted tap along - another 2 also decided they would like their problems worked on. Our coughing lady did not cough once during the night or the nights after - she continued to tap.
Another lady with neck shoulder and headache problems had great relief from that session and told me next day she had slept wonderfully and another with hip problems got great relief. They were all raving about this next day and 2 women who had left early were so disappointed that we invited them along to our room for a session that night. Again great results with both sleeping wonderfully well and the usual acute hip pain in one was down to a dull ache. One of the husbands of the pain in neck lady has had a life long problem with motion sickness and we had him tapping too and he had the best days traveling ever had even when we went on a boat. They are all rapped and several wanted more information and were determined to keep tapping. Our final message when we parted was - Keep Tapping."
"Without a doubt Orlando was the BEST, most productive workshop I have ever been to and I have the results to prove it. Business has flowed beautifully since I've returned and if anything I need to take a break and re-work my goals...
I learned so much from what you did and did not do....your keen observation the way you pause, sometimes for quite awhile, before you answer.......how you read the group when to laugh or not.....how you dealt with 2 different objections, even the horrid "I want my money back".......colourful language(?).....how you keep it simple and avoid the "weird" stuff like energy work and intuition which can and does put some people off.........and your neat partnership...
I have been teaching a group of about 10 people up here, have my next workshop booked with another to follow. I will adapt what is appropriate for me to use. Thank you.
I went to Orlando primarily for the performance part as my goal is to work with athletes in a BIG way. One goal is to have a solid group of athletes in the program and signed up for YOUR advanced course on performance next year in Toronto.
Thank you once again for the most productive 5 days and in such an enjoyable way too.
All the best."
"Dear David and Steve,
Thank you for an amazing weekend. I had never laughed so much in 3 days! It was a privilege to watch you geniuses in action; I was impressed not only by your quick wits and sense of humour, but also your empathy and compassion and insights. I've taken home a wonderful tool and for that I am deeply grateful. Many workshops promise to be life-transforming and fun. This IS truly life-transforming and lots of fun.
Having read Jung for a number for years (and absolutely love him) this is the first time I really understood and knew how to apply his concept of holding the tension of opposites. Thank you so much for that.
I look forward to attending more of your workshops in the future (I can't wait to tell all my friends!), please keep them coming! Thanks again.
Love and hugs."
Dr Clare Tam, participant in Brisbane workshop
"It was most disturbed riding to the airport on the last day thinking how am I going to ever be able to intro this to my clients who are hard nosed business people?
I got on the plane and was seated next to a very large muscular man who proceeded to have an anxiety attack about flying. He was a long haul trucker whose rig had broken down and had to fly (which he NEVER does) back to Denver to get a tractor-trailer to haul it back to Denver.I asked him if he would be willing to try something very odd that might help him feel better. He was intrigued and said, "Yes, he would try almost anything!"
I explained very briefly that we would be tapping on just the lower palm of one hand (karate chop point) and he was to repeat after me
(I thought the rest of the routine would be a bit much for him to swallow in one gulp. The karate chop point did the trick all on it's own.)
Even though I hate flying.
Even though I can't stand being stuck on an airplane with all of these people breathing around me .
Even though I am not in the driver's seat.
We did barely 1 minute of this-I had him take a deep breath waiting. He looked me directly in the eye and asked, What did you do? Then he said, 'This isn't going to last.' To which I replied, Start tapping, Even though this isn't going to last. He complied, with a laugh.
We chatted about problems his wife is having, his phobia of driving on bridges (which we tapped on) the plane landed and was pulling up to the gate. He looked at me and said thank you, he couldn't believe that he flew so painlessly.
I thought this whole experience a gift. If a trucker could 'get it' then certainly a supposedly smarter person could get it! I have tried it with 2 coaching clients and it worked beautifully. ..
Thank you. You did change my life. I am working thru the self-acceptance peeling the onion identifying the beliefs and events to tap thru. Very freeing."
Ellen Schulz, Denver Colorado
"Hi Steve and David,
First of all I want to thank you both for the fantastic EFT Workshop, which I attended in Brisbane recently.
You two work so well together, and this makes the learning experience so much more enjoyable. I especially appreciated the way you so effortlessly used humour in your teaching and EFT Therapy.
I would like to tell you about the outcome of all the EFT tapping I did at your Workshop. For the past eight years I have not been able to have a normal bowel motion without having to take herbs every day. However, since the Workshop, I now have absolutely normal evacuation without taking any herbs at all!
This is like a miracle to me, for which I am truly grateful, and I thank you so much. The interesting thing is that I never once tapped on this problem as an 'issue', yet I have obviously released the cause of it!
Thankyou for being the wonderful loving therapists, and creative geniuses that you both are. I look forward to your next Workshop at the Gold Coast! With love and Big Hugs."
"Hi David and Steve,
I just wanted to give you feedback on the Self Acceptance workshop you held last weekend in Sydney.
For me it was brilliant. I gained clarity, resolution and release on something that was triggered by a disagreement with my partner that I was struggling to resolve. The issue was multifaceted and I had struggled with it for many months. Obviously it was not a one-minute wonder, but I have had several of those already and have enough faith in EFT and your provocative style to know that perseverance pays off. My inner world feels so different, much calmer and certainly a lot happier than it's been in years. Also many people are noticing and commenting that there is something different about me. It's all good, by the way.
So, for anyone contemplating doing your workshops I highly recommend them - if nothing else, at least you'll be able to laugh at yourself and what a relief that is. Thank you."
Love Linda Foster
"Dear David and Steve
It's 12.24 pm and I've just got home from the beach. It's one of those perfect Sydney days - 25 degrees, not a cloud in the bright, blue sky, with a light offshore wind and Bondi Beach is sparkling turquoise. I feel absolutely fantastic. Not just good or great, but more alive, content and at peace with myself than I can ever remember feeling. And it's not just because of the weather or because it's the weekend, but it's something much deeper and more profound and deep rooted than that.
It's hard to describe the shifts that have taken place since I did the Self Acceptance workshop with you guys less than one month ago. It's not just that my thoughts have turned relentlessly optimistic, or that every day I marvel at what a fantastic life I have, or that the world seems so filled with possibilities when only a few weeks it seemed full of limitations, frustration and anguish.
It's like a heavy shroud of darkness has been lifted off me. I feel totally different in my body - bigger, stronger, lighter, more upright, full of potential and charged with energy flowing from top to bottom and bottom to top. Last night I caught up with a friend that I hadn't seen for a long time and she commented on how "strong" and "big" I looked, despite the fact that I have done little exercise in the past few months.
I hate to come across all "born again", but the changes do seem miraculous to me. I have done a look of work on myself in the past 12 years, including yoga, homeopathy, therapy, meditation, affirmations, re-birthing, as well as reading dozens of self-help books. But nothing has created change so quickly and so effortlessly as EFT. I look forward to my 30 minute tapping session each morning and am constantly amazed what memories and insights occur to me as I tap away.
As my deeply held and largely unconscious beliefs are revealed to me I tap alternately on "I am this" and "I am not this" and the negative beliefs are rapidly transformed. Not excised, but they lose all the power they had over me. Nothing much has changed in my outer world - I still have the same material concerns as before. But my attitude towards them has changed. I am so much more approving of myself with all my foibles and so much more positive in my outlook to my life.
I just wanted to write and thank you for the knowledge and wisdom you shared with me. I feel like you have given me the most precious gift. If I knew then what I know now I would've gladly paid 100 times what the workshop cost.
My deepest and most sincere thanks."
"Hey Steve – a week has passed since our weekend workshop – I’m Mary-Ellen – the last demo about supply teaching – have just finished 2 days – one as a music fill-in where I talked about the brain and emotions and taught Brain Gym for the day to 7 separate classes, the second day as a LOTE teacher teaching Indonesian! No taking the phone off the hook etc etc – thank you for the breakthrough! I have visions of my angel telling your angel to tell you what buttons to press – I’m pleased they were hanging about that day. I found the workshop really helpful – I love that it has taken the seriousness out of this spirituality stuff. You and David are my first experience of real-life consciously evolving men – I know that there are more out there but none I’ve ever met and I enjoyed the time we had together. Thank you. Steve I do hope our paths cross again."
"Dear Steve & David,
Thank you for the fantastic weekend "The Power Of Self Acceptance"- You two men are just so down to earth and approachable -What a great path you helped set me upon...
Love to you both."
"Dear Steve & David,
Thank you both so much for a wonderful three days. It was all most enjoyable and therapeutic as well.
I'm now enjoying reading the books & gaining more insights into it all, as well as continuing to tap to clear more issues.
I didn't tell you at the time - but when we did the exercise about 'my life is ...blah, blah etc going over all the negative stuff. Then at the end of the last round I realised '..and I love it!' That was an interesting development for me!
Once again thanks, and I continue to enjoy your emails & resources on the website too."
Love from Taru Hoogenboom
"For quite a long time I was unaware that my goals and values were in conflict. I was constantly striving for things however never reaching the level of success I wanted in many of the areas of my life. I also often felt torn between my goals, especially about family and career.
Even when I finally became aware of the differences, I struggled unsuccessfully to do anything about it. I would often jump from one to the other and back again, effectively going around in circles and feeling frustrated, unfocused, tired, guilty, powerless and often overwhelmed.
That all changed when I attended the Peak Performance workshop by Steve Wells and used Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to deal with my value conflicts. THE RESULTS HAVE BEEN AMAZING!
For the first time I am at peace with myself around my goals and there is no longer that internal emotional struggle. My goals sit comfortably with me now and I am starting to achieve the level of success I was striving for - with a lot less effort and a lot more energy and focus from me! This is because I now have my goals in line with my values and give them priority accordingly. I still have many of the same goals, including career and family, however now I just have them in order of priority matching my values – and that makes for a very nice life!"
Lenore Watts, Sydney, Australia
"I have already experienced a change and am looking forward to exceeding my goals! ...
Soon after the recent class I have had several opportunities to use the PET technique. In particular, there was one case with a client who would buy a puppy every time she got depressed. At this time she has 4 dogs and seeing that the time in between depressions had been decreasing, it was a tempting opportunity to put PET into action. The session turned out (fortunately not with 101 Dalmations but) being a wonderful experience and the client was able to see and enjoy the humor and it made for a very memorable and productive time."
Cheers, Kitty Broeder, BC, Canada
"Thanks Kristelle and Kerry for your FAB organizational skills, to my classmates, ...and of course to Dr. David and Steve, for their.... EVERYTHING! Their wisdom, their humor, their love, their patience, and their generous sharing of it all with us!
This workshop was SUPER DUPER! The personal, caring attention was very special, making us all feel safe to share with one another and with our teachers. Having this second level PET, certainly prompts me to take my third and final PET training.
I learned so much to add to my repertoire of techniques to use in groups and individual work....
I loved being with all my unique and brave fellow students. Their sharing and caring and working together on the break-away exercises is much appreciated and valued. Some of these dear people I have worked with now for the second time, and eagerly anticipate future workshops with them...
As to future workshops I will definitely be at Level 3 PET. Also will see Steve and David (and maybe some of my classmates?) at the Toronto Energy Conf in the fall and signing up for David's pre-conf. Relationship workshop.
Am working on my presentation/interactive workshop for July 10th as we speak. EFT is the foundation of this one with a title (Mega Money Mind) .... This helps them discover their limiting thoughts and core beliefs and how to crack thru them with EFT, so they can then discover where their true path lies, so they can get on it toward greater joy and satisfaction in their lives and careers.
With great appreciation to you all,
Judy M Johnson
"Awesome. An amazing 2 days that has not only given me new insights into myself but has given me tools I can use in both my personal and corporate life."
Louise Pretty, Manager Applications Development & Support, Alinta
"Thank you for a wonderful experience. I have been able to clear some past demons and feel focused in my future endeavours both personal and business."
"Inspiring - Energetic - Enlightening... Steve made me feel very comfortable and able to share thoughts and feelings easily and effotlessly."
Cathy Lloyd-Prowse, Owner, Mum's the Word Fitness
"How time flies! It has already been a month since Vancouver workshop!!
The thing that has helped me the most from the workshop was from Dr. David Lake and that was the tapping on the five fingers throughout the day whenever time permits. I normally have to go to my chiropractor at least once a month for adjustments and it has been 5 weeks and I do not feel a need to go !!!!! I find this amazing.
I enjoyed so much observing the PET presentations - I was amazed.
Thanks for all you did to make Vancouver possible."
Christine Devenport, Louisiana
"I finally can sit down and give you a little feed back on the Vancouver course. I am very happy that I attended, I can assure you that I was not disappointed. I enjoyed the 2 Aussies very much. I happen to like their kind of humour it tends to hit the nail right on. I was not always happy to have my nail hit right on but when you want to be honest with yourself it has to be that way. So I discovered things about myself that I would never have found before not because I did not want to know but it is so easy to lie to oneself. But when confronted like we were in PET it has to happen.
Since then it has allowed me to work on those 'flaws' and to improve my life because I have succeeded in eliminating some. I am not saying I am now flawless but I am less 'flawful'.
It also made me feel good to see that a lot of my concerns were shared by the rest of the audience. All of a sudden I was not alone. I kind of diffuse the problem and if only for that, attending the seminar is good...
By taking the class it gave me my self-confidence back and I will be giving a talk on the basis of EFT at the Quebec Dowsers Association in September...
Thank you for your warm presence and for the quality of your organization it was very professional.
PS: I took my son to the Friday night basic course and since then he has been using it a lot, he says that if he does it more than that he will have big holes on the tapping points."
Ginette Desmarais, Montreal
"Dear Steve and David
I thought the weekend workshop was fantastic. Just by tapping for the 3 days during the workshop on other people's issues I had some kind of epiphany on the Saturday night where a lot of my 'stuff' bubbled up and out and the relief was enormous. Since then all my self-talk seems to start with 'Even though ....'
The 'relationship' aspect where Peter and I came up in front of the class and tapped on each other was truly amazing. I felt as if I had been lifted to a spiritual level that was filled with unconditional love beaming into me and I swear I saw a really bright light shining from behind Peter's head (and no, it wasn't the room's flourescent lighting!).
I've used EFT every day since - so many thanks again for a wonderfully entertaining, funny and informative workshop."
Kind regards, Birgit (Berti) Bornholdt
"Dear David and Steve
Thank you both for a very interesting, fabulous and inspiring two days on self acceptance and EFT. With your unique therapy skills you created a safe environment for healing and learning. The time with you has greatly 'provoked' my personal journey as well as the development as an EFT practitioner. You are an awesome team, thank you so much!"
Kind regards Marcel Jutzi, EFT Practitioner, Shiatsu, Energy Therapist
"Excellent. Opened my mind to the use of EFT as a means of clearing barriers to performance and the tapping on values and stages of goals was powerful ... Steve's an exceptional communicator and his provocative style is both humorous and challenging."
Joe Nathan Lourdes, Director, Hypnosis Works Pty Ltd, Singapore Peak Performance Workshop
"Extraordinary valuable and practical course... Unblocked my emotional barrier to achieve my goals."
Ahmad Faiz Zaimudden, Masters Degree Student, Singapore Peak Performance Workshop
"Tremendous workshop from a great trainer. I'm excited by the possibilities and what I can now do for myself and for others...Thank you so much for bringing this meaningful and transformational training to us."
Shahar Bin Mohamed Ismail, Principal, H.O.P.E. Training and Consultancy, Singapore Peak Performance Workshop
"As always a fantastic course with lots of nuggets I picked up, distinctions made and inspiration to widen my EFT experience.
I’m an EFT junkie and attending your courses is always revitalizing.
Looking forward to the day when we can bring our kids along to workshops – if / when you start ones designed for children...or parents and children."
"Dear Steve and David, Thanks ever so much for a great 4 ½ days. I appreciate learning about the Provocative approach, and received a whole new look at humor. Your rapport skills and acuity are awesome... Thanks!"
Catherine Noel, Texas, USA
"Dear Steve & David,
Thank you for a great weekend. (I) can't remember when I laughed so much in a 'serious' workshop. It's wonderful to see two master trainers in action...
On the Monday after the workshop I noticed that my feet seemed to be more firmly planted on the earth, I felt really good and I can't remember when I felt so grounded and balanced.
All the best to both of you, I'm sure I'll be seeing more of you."
"Dear Steve and David
Just a short letter to thank you for your London Self Acceptance and Peak Performance workshops.
Both workshops were just amazing and I am still amazed at how much I learned. You were both fantastic presenters enabling the course to flow beautifully. Not once in the 4 days did I feel bored which is a first for me (I invariably doze off as the presenter waffles on and on and on....)!!! I'd also forgotten how much I'd missed the zany Australian sense of humour since moving here 6 years ago!!! The Provocative Therapy approach really appealed to me - I have since used it with my clients and the results have been excellent.
Thank you so much for coming to London and please also pass on my deep gratitude to Joy, Ray, Sue and anyone else who contributed to this incredible event. I've run out of superlatives so shall close now :-)"
Best regards, Liz Hogon, London Workshop
"Hi you two.
I'd just like to thank you again for a great workshop. I got a lot of shifts. I am still assimilating everything, I felt as though I had reconfigured every cell in my body when I got home...or in other words, I was knackered!! Seeing Jim waking up so cheerful in the mornings and enthusing about his experience is a treat. He came home on Wednesday saying he'd got these three builders in the pub tapping on themselves because they were complaining about some guy who they were expecting to get paid from and they were expecting him not to show. Jim had them all tapping...'I'm not going to get paid, I never get paid, I don't deserve to get paid...'etc, and one of them was falling about with laughter. He said they were still tapping when he left the pub, giving it some wellie, cement dust falling out of their eyebrows!
In terms of feedback...one more day would have been good...Jim and I took the morning off to do some more on the Wednesday and that was good. What a treat to be able to do this with my darling. It took you two days to 'win him over' and you did it beautifully.
So, apart from wanting more of it....it was TOP in every way!
... (I) just want to wish you both all the best in everything you do and I look forward to when we meet again."
Lots of love, Ruth Fox xx, London
"Dear Steve and David,
Thank you so much for the amazingly wonderful experience of your Self-Acceptance and Peak Performance workshop. They were truly life-changing - I feel so much more centred now, and yes, self-accepting (and I had done tons of work already, had come a long way already, but this work brought me a quantum leap further). Again, I had done a lot of work on my blocks to success, but your Peak Performance workshop added an amazing extra dimension to what I knew. The work on values and EFT's role in consolidating or amending them as necessary was mind- blowing! These tools are so powerful and I am so privileged and delighted to have them to help me - now I KNOW that I'm unstoppable!"
Tracy Culleton, London Workshop
"Hi David & Steve,
I'm not long back from your UK workshops, and thought I'd send you the feedback you asked for...
In general: the workshops were the best thing I've done for myself in years. I don't have any income at the moment - I'm living off capital - so I really hesitated before spending money on something like this. I have to tell you, it's been worth every penny and more. I've never laughed so much, never cried so much, and the whole event really has been life-changing (not a term I use lightly). I love the provocative therapy approach: ... It was so refreshing to see that good results can come from a different style. I had the best fun ever experimenting with this while I was there, AND achieving good results...
I feel that provocative therapy, combined with EFT, gets to the core issue and deals with it so much more quickly than anything else I've seen...
David: I'm the person who asked you about chronic fatigue and you recommended (your simplified version of) tapping for 3-4 hours a day. I'm doing this and I'm feeling so much better already. I signed up for the workshops not knowing how I was ever going to get through them - I just hoped the tapping might make it possible. What I found was that, with each day that went by, I seemed to feel better and better. Believe me, this has never happened before. One day of something similar and I'd normally have to rest for several days afterwards. On the final day, a problem with the tube meant that my friend and I had a two-hour journey to get to the venue, standing all the way. In addition to this, on my way home that night, I spent most of the three-hour journey standing. At times I began to feel myself tiring, but kept tapping and my energy levels came back up again. When I got home, my partner said how surprised he was by the way I looked - he'd been expecting me to be too tired to speak.
I'm beginning to believe that this really might work, but the hardest thing to deal with is my own mindset. The best thing you said to me was something I've so badly needed to hear (and believe) from someone: 'you will get well again'. I've tried so many different things, always hoping that this one or that one might be the breakthrough I've looked for, and always being disappointed. Until now I'd got to the point of being too scared even to hope, because I didn't feel I could bear another disappointment. I'm now working on clearing away all those outdated beliefs. David, I can never thank you enough - I feel as if I've been given my life back again, and I have hope for the future. A phrase from a poem by T.S.Eliot seemed to sum up how it was for me: "I have measured out my life in coffee spoons". Well, now I plan to measure it out in soup ladles and bucketfuls. Thank you.
...I do hope you'll both come back to the UK soon; I've already told several friends that they mustn't miss it if you do."
Participant from London workshop
"Steve: I thought the content of your two days was truly excellent... You gave us lots of really useful stuff and I know that my life coaching and therapist friends will be really interested to hear about it. I love the idea of using EFT to create something for the future, rather than only dealing with the past. (I've already used it to improve my watercolour art technique.) ... I also admire the way that you managed to squeeze a huge amount into the time, while never making anything feel rushed - that's an amazing skill...
Overall, the humour, creativity and authenticity that you both brought to the event were beyond anything I had hoped for - and I'd hoped for a lot."
Very best wishes,
Gill Smith, London
"Steve and David,
To say I enjoyed myself (at the Self-Acceptance workshop) would be an understatement. I enjoyed, grew, laughed, cried, connected with others and myself in new ways, and while I may not be perfect (yet) I think I can live with that, and enjoy my (sometimes problematic) self. I may even be ok! (as I am).
The freedom the two of you bring to this, and your acceptance freed us to go beyond who we thought we were. Your work is insightful, yet simple, effective and fun. You walk the walk - and it's just wonderful. I think you complement each other perfectly. The workshop has a good balance between theory and practice and the fact that a question never goes unasked is great. You manage the time, yet there is no pressure, no stress - it flows so well... Worth every cent and all the time I spent coming - above and beyond my expectations. ..
The togetherness in the room during the workshop is so wonderful I'd like to take everyone home with me. There is a clarity, focus, and energy level in me right now that I don't ever remember having - it seems so natural to me now - thank you for these gifts!"
Binyamin Dov Zuriel, Jerusalem, Israel, Participant in London
"Steve Wells helped me become the Dad I wanted to be. On the second night at home with our first born I endured my first marathon screaming session - it left my nerves shattered. The next morning whilst conceptually I was excited to be a Dad, in truth when I thought of my daughter I froze with terror. Fortunately that morning was also the beginning of a workshop with Steve Wells. Over the following days each time Sophie screamed I applied what Steve had taught me. By the end of the week I was a dream husband who gave my tired wife a long break while I nursed a distressed baby. What Steve taught me helped Karen and I survive the first days and weeks of being new parents. Plus I have been able to apply the same lessons to breakthrough my business barriers. If you, like me, sometimes find your emotions blocking you from your goals then hesitate no longer - make haste to learn from Steve Wells."
Matt Hern, Financial Adviser, Perth, Western Australia (Participant in the first ever 100% YES! workshop held in Perth)
"Thank you for a wonderful course that provided enough information and hands on practice for me to gain both knowledge of and direct experience of the power of EFT. I think originally I would have been a number 1 skeptic, not because I'm not open to alternative personal growth techniques (I teach yoga, meditation and facilitate rebirthing) but because apart from slightly heightened energy I genuinely didn't experience any exceptional personal growth benefits when I experimented and applied EFT to myself prior to the course or even during the course.
Anyway significantly, the morning after the course I tried yet another round of EFT after my meditation practice and lo and behold realised that I am utterly and completely neurotic!!!! You would not believe what a relief this was to me, how touching, how truly liberating. All the years (and I'm talking about years) that I've been propped up by an ardent committment to all activities that induce inner peace. So much energy has been wasted on keeping a lid on my neurosis, maintaining a calm exterior. Finally I'm free to be me. Much love and best wishes Proud to be neurotic Proud to be me!"
"Dear Steve and David
Please excuse the silence since the Sydney workshop. I have been yawning. And tapping pretty continuously. And so with Gandharvo as well.
The world scooped us up from the time of our arrival back in Bermi but did we become immeshed? NO! Were we productive differently - YES! For a small fishing village it can be a surprisingly busy place.
Thank you both for what for me was a profound experience. Our relationship is changed. I never really knew that love can conquer all. I am still coming to terms with this beautiful, beautiful discovery. I see and experience my love so much more deeply now. And I am starting to get the fact that Gandharvo "really is doing her best" and trusting that and our love.
(As a theatre director) you are both a wonderful team. It is so great to see friends working and 'walking the talk' as you both created a structure that joggled most of the major areas in our realities. You laugh at our illusions and love our essence and we laugh along too!
Thank you for allowing us to experience the joy and process of True healing. In love and gratitude."
"Thank you both for an excellent workshop. Since the workshop I have been tapping so much. I occasionally forget the continual method, but then start as soon as I think of it. I have found a big difference in a lot of areas. One particular challenge for me is my canine companion of about 14 years is wearing out. She is a true source of joy & love, but time has caught up with us & is overtaking. When she has a really bad day, I still cry when I'm telling the vet the symptoms, but at least I can communicate, & the grief flows through me. It does not envelope me in a paralysing fog. Two years ago my 2 cats of 15 years made their grand exit, and after the initial raw grief I sort of went into deep freeze & stayed there, Now, using EFT while dealing with Harriet's declining condition, I feel unresolved issues even relating to my father's death 16 years ago, as well as my cat's passing are surfacing & resolving. I am practising the PET with some of my friends & it has been incredibly confronting & effective."
Suzanne Oakley (participant in Melbourne EFT and Self-Acceptance workshop)
"I loved the workshop. Steve and David work very well together and apart from what I learned, I have never laughed so much in a workshop in my life... I learned with ease because both facilitators were very clear in their presentation. They made everyone feel safe which is important when dealing with emotional issues and the results were spectacular for everyone. This is a very worthwhile seminar and I cannot recommend it highly enough."
Diane McCann, Facilitator, participant in Melbourne Self- Acceptance Workshop
This account which was provided to us by Howard Stanley after his participation in our PET workshop in Sydney encapsulates and decodes the PET process and results in a way that no-one else has done. Many thanks to Howard for his words. For more feedback on the PET workshop, see also section 9 below:
"Thank you Steve and David for another life-altering workshop experience.
To see time and again (surprised) people (esp myself and my love, Gandharvo) moving way past their expectations of where they think they can go is profound. I feel as if I have witnessed and participated in one of the most expansive roller coaster improvisations ever. If only actors could go there with such ease. The playwright Anton Chekhov is memorable for many things among them was his ability to create dramatic situations where an audience simultaneously experienced both tears and laughter. The Cherry Orchard, arguably the greatest comedy of the 20th century, has several of these moments. No other playwright has been able to create those peculiar circumstances. Until you guys came along. Again and again as participant or spectator we shared those same states in every session! Amazing.
And then, as I think about this, it was in its own way, as participant, the most profound part of the learning that is, the conscious, simultaneous holding of those states as an active metaphor for our real and illusive selves. To provoke in our friends this state is, I believe, one of the most loving things we can do. Billy Connelly would be jealous!
In theatre, I learned from the American Choreographer, Deborah Hay, the crucial concept of "holding and being held". This is the essential relationship between performers and between performers and audience. As we hold, we are held. As an exercise I ask my actors or students to hold (hug) each other with this concept and attend to the micro dance that follows, that of allowing themselves to be held as they hold. It is one of the most elegant trust exercises I use. If we cant hold and be held by each other as performers, how then can we hold (and be held by) an audience. This dance is invariably transformative. It is the discreet element or subtext that all who do shows are striving for when they are hoping for a successful season or performance. Unfortunately many are unaware of this valuable tool/concept.
I mention this because that is what you both do, beautifully. With each other, with us.
Thank you for the privilege of participating in your most beautiful of dances.
Thank you for the space, the boundless indescribable feeling of love I am now (and have been since you came into our lives) experiencing with Gandharvo (who is all women for me in the way that I am all men for her).
Thank you for the laughter.
Thank you for your love.
Thank you for seeing me, my love Gandharvo, and us."
With love, Howard
Note: Howard Stanley is a theatre director who has also successfully used tapping with actors to help them learn their lines and overcome performance fears.
"Thank you David for an awesome day. You have 'cracked' one of my limiting self beliefs wide open. I will look foward to seeing an absolute difference to the way I choose to spend my life. Also the difference in my trading bank!"
Barbara Muller (participant in Melbourne Workshop), participant of Energy Techniques for Trading workshop with Dr David Lake
"Hello Steve and David!
WOW! I have never laughed and also learned so much in my life! (the 3 L's)
The PET seminar was wonderful. I want to say thank you for your time, your knowledge and your awesome humor in teaching us about PET. I am now craving to learn more about PET and attend more of your seminars. Thank you for all the wonderful examples and exercises to get us totally involved and make us feel like we can do it also.
Learning PET from you has shown me that there are many aspects and ways to clear the blocks from our body.
I am even finding myself smiling in the mirror every time that I am drying my hair in the morning. And when I asked myself why I was smiling, it was because I was remembering the words of humor and healing that you would both use and the wonderful feelings I would have at the end of the day!
Thank you for all that you have done. Sincerely, with my heart."
Just a note to thank you so much for a terrific 100% YES course last w/end in Seattle. I'm feeling great, thanks to you & all those lovely people I met. I had absolutely no idea what to expect but I got far more than I could ever have bargained for. I really appreciated your presentation, patience & guidance helping us all shed our B.S. Who would ever have thought it could be so much fun, sometimes hilarious, you made everyone feel so comfortable. I feel I have some wonderful tools to help me through any situation now.
P.S. I read most of Dr. David (Lake's) book on the way home & thought it was fantastic, I read it in an Australian accent, hearing his voice, (can you do that?) anyway, thank you for all those insights & hints, it all made sense to me anyway. I can't understand how my husband has stood me for 42 years, blimey is he nuts? or is it me? All the best."
Best wishes Yvonne
Note: David's relationships book 'She'll be Right' can be found at: http://www.eftdownunder.com/products.html#She'llbeRight
"Dear Steve and David,
Thank you for the excellent conference week in Seattle.Every day was full of fun, new ideas, and insights...
I'm still basking in the acceptance and caring atmosphere that we all created. It was a pleasure meeting people form Israel, Ireland, Columbia and Australia as well, as local people from the states, and the nearby Vancouver area and Canada...
I especially appreciated getting to demonstrate what I have learned from you. You are both great examples of expertise and caring. I couldn't have better teachers. Thank you for the opportunity."
Regards, Terry Fischer, New Mexico
"It's been nearly two weeks since I experienced the '100% Yes' EFT workshop with Steve Wells in Seattle. I am still basking in the energy of the event as well as the energy I feel as a result of the breakthroughs I experienced. As I prepared to go to Seattle, I set my intention for my experience at the workshop. My intention was big and what I experienced was even bigger.
I find the environment with Steve to be one that is very supportive and intimate and perfect for me to learn and grow.
Thank you Steve for your commitment to this work, I'll be eager to see you again."
Warmly, Judy Sabah, MCC
"I have been to many workshops run by Steve Wells and I am amazed at how each time it gets better. I believe that as Steve grows, the workshops evolve and a repeat one is never the same. I was particularly impressed with his "100% Yes" program because of the values section. I learned to look at what my true values are instead of the fantasy of what I want them to be. It epitomized for me what I feel about EFT and how one looks at what "is" instead of what could or might be. It means facing the reality and working with it , Also I love to work with Steve because I believe he is a man who walks his talk and so models his work so perfectly."
Shanti Bezard, Albany, Western Australia
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Feedback from those that have purchased our products
Here's what people are already saying about Rose and the Night Monsters:
"I enthusiastically recommend this delightful little book. It belongs on the bookshelf of every parent, teacher or counsellor who deals with the ever-present anxieties that children experience when growing up. This can be a breakthrough for all of us."
Patricia Carrington, Ph.D.Clinical Professor, Department of Family Medicine
"A beautiful book, which children will love for itself - and their parents for its message."
Alwyn Evans, Childrens' book author and editor.
"I consider meeting you as one of my life's blessings. The workshop you both presented in San Francisco was a wonderful experience for me. You are the greatest teachers I know (that is meant as an ultimate compliment coming from another teacher). Everyday since the workshop I have continued to utilize the fabulous techniques you taught) and I share the techniques and successful results with my students, friends, and co-workers."
Sherri Pagliari, participant in San Francisco workshop
"The book is BEEEEUTIFUL. Great read, great words, simple and easy to understand - I'm sure the message will get thru', lovely pictures, and to cap it all - it's sooooooo lovely to touch - I found myself just rubbing my hand over it! Congratulations from a grandmother of 6."
Margaret Brabrook in Toowoomba
"Ruby (7) was sitting with her class at assembly, the parents were sitting above. She was due to go on stage to receive an award from the Principal and, just prior to that my husband looked down to see her tapping away on her face. He asked her after the assembly what she was doing and she said she was tapping (like Mummy had shown her) so she wouldn't be scared of getting up on stage. He asked if it had worked and she said yes - for her and her friend who was also scared!"
" Hi Steve and David, thank you for a fantastic life enhancing experience at the workshop on the weekend. I've had several realizations & calming breakthroughs since then & I'm very grateful to have been divinely led to your workshop ...
Love & Rainbows"
PS: I'm going to show your beautiful picture book to my friend's 5 year old grandson (to do some tap dancing). He witnessed his mum being assaulted (punched in the face) by a drunken woman while she was putting the kids in the car at a shopping centre. I remembered you saying 'don't wait to be perfect' before you try helping someone & I don't have a perfectionist problem anymore. Another victory for you & David! God bless you both.
Here is Helen's follow up email received a few days later:
I saw little B. tonight (my friend's 5yr old Grandson) & I tapped away (short cut) while we were talking about the event & the fears associated with it and he even said he was afraid that the lady was going to kill his baby sister C! He let out a huge sigh half way through while I was gently tapping on him (he didn't want to tap himself). He loved saying (during the set up 'karate point') I'm an OK kid - I'm a super OK kid I'm a super super OK kid! When he went to bed we tapped again and talked and it came up that he got into trouble from a teacher today so I tapped away while we talked about that too. He doesn't usually talk about anything and 'bottles everything up' according to his Mum and she was quite amazed that he talked about it. He's such a beautiful kid and he went to sleep in a very relaxed state.
I went through the long version (from head to wrist to fingers) and included the 9 gamut with his mum R who has been separated from her partner for 3 weeks (staying at her Mum's) and then had this trauma happen plus the stress of working full-time as a liquor (sales) rep. We decided to tap on a feeling of being overwhelmed to start with and we soon found other things to deal with. I managed to have her laughing at some stages by exaggerating (as you suggested at the work shop). When we finished R said she felt a lot more relaxed. I suggested that she tap on her hands throughout the day as she thinks of things and also when she next takes the kids to a shopping centre (she hasn't done that since the incident).
I explained to R that she can tap on B each night to appease his worries and fears and she also knows how to do it for herself. The rest is up to her now and hopefully she will use it.
Before I went there tonight I had to tap on my own fears of not being good enough and having to perfect the method before I could help them and I just realized that I wasn't at all nervous! Another realization and validation that this really does work!"
Love & Rainbows, Helen
We received the following emails from Julie Kirk who had ordered our books:
"I have received my order and am practicing the steps daily. I do feel changes taking place that are remarkable and work through a list of connections that arise (being the remainders, branches off main concern/problem). I feel stronger and steadier toward myself and find the EFT tool remarkable.
I hope to keep in touch from time to time to share with you the keepsakes recorded, as my life changes for the better. Thank you for your help and support."
A little while later Julie sent us the following email on her subsequent progress:
"I do want to tell you about a big healing that has taken place. I had a lump on my left collarbone; the lump has been there for a couple of years. I did not have it seen too due to believing it was not to be worried about as is was small and never changed in colour of size at all.
Just before I found Gary's then Steve's site, the lump became swollen and very sore, it bubbled up into a dome shape becoming angry and sadly very scarry to the eye and self. I have a problem with medical belief, always being ready to heal myself through meditation and affirmation. I had focussed my meditations and affirmations upon the lump for some time to no avail.
Five days and ten sessions of EFT and the lump has dried off and broken away leaving only a slight discolouration, yet the area is healthy with no pain at all. I cannot express how worried I was about the lump, and the thought of having to attend a medical person re the possibility of tests and the drama's emotionally bought around through such interaction.
I have every faith in EFT using the steps twice to three times a day. My neighbour asked me how the lump was yesterday, I showed her the small mark that remains..."What did you do?" she asked, "How did you get it to heal so quickly?" I stood still and asked her to watch every action my hands, fingers, eyes, mouth would make and did the EFT steps. She was amazed as was her husband by the quick flow such a healing as EFT releases. I have been asked to share the sites with her and then spend time interacting by going over and over the steps with her.
My next step is to heal the nail biting habit I have had since my childhood.... EFT is rather a happy adventure...it is all about the self and what the self can achieve through being devoted and willing to keep at it. Have a wonderful day."
"Good morning chaps,
I’ve just finished reading “She’ll Be Right (when men aren’t getting it)” to enlighten myself.... congratulations David – you’ve been trained well!
I’m using it for myself to help understand why men don’t get us and am making odd notes here and there (mainly big ticks and “yes’s!”) for when M reads it – it has just landed on his desk with a note –“Your Training Manual”.
He still has a few modules left in the training program to attain Gold status; however he has excelled and achieved Platinum status in the cleaning arena:
Me: I’ve got us a cleaner here’s half the bill
Him: OK darling (thought – anything to stop her complaining about it)
Me: I’ve got us a cleaner and here is the entire bill (no guilt attached)
Him: OK darling (thought – anything to stop her complaining about it)
There is lots of good stuff for us in the book and I’m keen to get into some EFT as a couple, once M has tapped on his reluctance to do this of course."
Recently I received the following email from Christine Kelley who used EFT and our children’s book Rose and the Night Monsters to help her friend's daughter to overcome her grief over her grandpa's death (as well as several of her childhood fears and other negative emotions). Christine's description of how she worked with Ruth is a lovely story, which includes some great tips for working with children.
Here is the story as Christine relates it:
"I had bought your book Rose and the Night Monsters as a Christmas gift for Alice the 9-year-old daughter of my dear friend Ruth, interstate. When I was visiting recently Ruth asked me to run through the tapping with Alice. Apparently they had read the book but hadn't got as far as trying the technique themselves as yet. I confess I had some performance anxiety of my own when it came to conveying the instructions to this little girl. I have taught EFT to hundreds of adults but don't work with children at all these days and my own are grown up with no grandchildren as yet - so I felt rather out of touch.
I started with telling Alice there was something special about her book because "it shows you how to get rid of yucky feelings by tapping some special spots on your body". I asked her if she ever had any yucky feelings she would like to make disappear and she said she did. I asked her to think about a time when she had such feelings that upset her about 6 or 7 out of 10, so we could test whether the tapping worked for her without upsetting her too much. I asked her if she would like to keep what she was thinking of secret and just tell me the feeling. She liked this idea and shared that her feeling was scared about something whenever she brushed her teeth.
When we did the scoring of the feelings I said this was the only test you wanted to get 0 out of 10 for, which Alice found very funny! We did 3 rounds of EFT on being scared - looking at the poster in the book for the points - to get it to 0, and at the end of each round and our special breath as the feeling went down I gave her an excited hug about how clever she was. We did the same on guilt (which was a 10) and sadness about something else. Then, knowing the family had been unable to even display photos of Alice's deceased Grandpa without her becoming extremely distressed, I asked if she had any feelings about Grandpa not being there. Again the feeling was sadness and after 3 rounds this was gone too.
This all took about half an hour and seeing she was getting a little restless I asked if she had any more feelings she would like to tap away and she said no. We wound up with me suggesting she might like to teach her mum the tapping because it can help with asthma from which Ruth suffers. Later that day Alice told her mum she had been cross with her dad about something but had tapped and now felt better. At bedtime she taught her mum apparently in a verbatim of my best "therapese", including the injunction that keeping the details of the event private was ok. Ruth was tired and wanted to finish up after a round or two but her feeling wasn't down to 0 yet so Alice insisted that she get it to 0 because "it doesn't take very long."
After my visit Ruth emailed me:
"Alice and I did the tapping again last night. She said she would like to go to bed five minutes earlier each night so she had time to do it (of course the five minutes earlier won't last!) but I am happy to encourage her with the tapping if she finds it helpful. She said she was no longer afraid of the stabbing dream she has had which is fantastic, and was going to work on monsters etc."
When you went to the airport, she opened her massage business for me to have a massage (a little family game). I bought a foot massage, but she was eager to point out she had extended her range to include manicures and pedicures and life coaching - tapping!!! So clearly she thinks it is a useful thing!"
A week or so later Ruth wrote again:
"We went out to dinner at a favourite restaurant last night. As we were eating, I said 'This reminds me of Papa. We should have a toast.' To which Alice lifted her glass and made a toast, and then did it gain because her brother wasn't ready. It is the first time we have been able to mention him since he died without her getting distressed."
When I, in middle age, reflect on how different my life might have been if I had had EFT as a child, I find it very heart warming thinking of today's children with so much ahead of them having this amazing self healing tool to ease their way."
Christine Kelley, Clinical Social Worker, firstname.lastname@example.org
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"EFT and Palliative Care: Moving to a Place of Peace"
by Margaret Munoz
(Margaret is a Sydney-based peak performance specialist and EFT practitioner who attended our advanced EFT and PET trainings. Here she tells a touching story of her skilful work with Libby, a woman who was diagnosed with terminal cancer.)
I first came across Libby in June 2001 when she was in hospital awaiting surgery to remove a highly malignant brain tumour - the second in two months. I saw her twice before the surgery once using Journey therapy and once using EFT and BSFF.
Libby was deeply fearful of both the cancer and the operation but said after the consultations "I discovered and acknowledged the most important goal in my life - peace of mind - and through the simple, effective "tapping" techniques Margaret taught me I was able to reach the calm acceptance with which I entered the operation. I firmly believe that the success of the surgery was due in large part to the strong, calm and positive state of mind in which entered the operation".
The change in Libby was indeed profound and even led to her being able to walk in a straighter line down the corridor to farewell me at the lifts!
Libby consulted with me a number of times after the operation and despite the doctor's pessimistic diagnosis she remained tumour free for approximately 16 months. However the tumour, diagnosed this time as inoperable and terminal, returned and started to make its presence known with many disturbing symptoms. Libby started to work with me again on a regular basis and we did a lot of tapping around the fear that her symptoms triggered which gave her great relief. She finally lost the use of her left arm and leg and entered a nursing home.
I worked with her to find internal peace despite the destruction that was happening to her physical body. One day I arrived to find she had suffered a brain haemorrhage and had lost a lot more movement as well as being unable to speak. I tapped on her using the top of the head, EB, SE, CB, Chest, inner wrist, outer wrist and fingers as well as the karate chop point for the set up statement and concentrated on her finding peace. Even though I can't speak and can't move I choose to feel calm and peaceful.
As it seemed she might not have much time left I decided it was the moment to do some forgiveness work that I knew hadn't been done. I asked her brother to make a list of all the people she might be angry or upset at and he also added some reasons why. I worked my way through the list saying: Even though (name) did (whatever) to me I forgive them and choose to be at peace with them and with myself.
This evoked quite an emotional response from Libby and I wasn't sure whether to persist but I pressed on and when the doctor arrived at the end of the session her brother assessed that she had improved substantially, being far more alert and having more movement in her right arm and leg.
By my next appointment Libby had regained more movement and could indicate "yes" with a grunt. She seemed very uncomfortable with her right shoulder and as the right side of the body has to do with action I pondered aloud as to whether this pain had to do with things she hadn't taken action on and hadn't finished, such as a book she hadn't written. She agreed and we tapped this out. Even though I didn't get my book finished (and other things too) I deeply and completely accept and forgive myself.
However, she found it very hard to forgive herself for not having finished what she wanted to do and it took quite a bit of work - we had to include, Even though I can't forgive myself for not finishing the book I accept that I can't forgive myself until she was finally at peace. After this she improved substantially and much to everyone's amazement was soon back sitting up in a wheelchair, speaking and taking an interest. Just how much influence the tapping had on this I have no idea but after each session Libby was noticeably physically and emotionally improved.
In the sessions following this we tapped on all the issues that arose - the loss of mobility, loss of privacy, loss of independence, feelings of helplessness, physical deterioration, physical discomfort, difficulty speaking, noise, hating using a bedpan, not being able to let go and accept the situation, anger at herself for getting herself in that position, the loss of meaning in her life. EFT was an amazing tool in this difficult situation and helped replace anger, frustration and despair with peace.
In her brother Richard's words:" Often Libby was angry about her situation and sometimes depressed. In recent weeks things turned decidedly worse and she looked like dying within days. Margaret was able to help Libby to a significant place of peace. Help her to forgive others and herself for past wrongs. Help her to accept her loss (of a longer life, of mobility, of independence). Help her to accept what is happening and what will happen. This has been beautiful to watch and a great comfort to us all."
Libby died peacefully in August 2003.
Note: Margaret Munoz has a regular newsletter "Being the Best" - A great read with some excellent tips for getting the best of yourself. You can contact Margaret - and subscribe to her newsletter - at: email@example.com
"Vietnam Veteran Finds Peace" by Rehana Webster
I had the opportunity to work with my brother-in-law Dave, retired from the New Zealand Army. He had heard that I might be able to help him and after 2 years on prescribed medications (nortriptyline, citalopram and melatonin) he finally thought he would give EFT a try.
Dave had served in Vietnam from 1965 to 1968. During that period he witnessed a lot of death, destruction and violence. The most traumatic incident during that period was the death of his best friend who was killed by enemy fire before his eyes. This particular memory had haunted him all these years and he blamed himself for not having prevented Jim's death.
The symptoms he had been suffering from were the classic PTSD, nightmares, recurring thoughts, flashbacks, and anger/grief about certain incidents.
I asked Dave to relate the whole incident to me and asked him to measure his SUD's from 0-10. He said they were 10++ and my observation of his physiology confirmed this. His face was flushed and bright red, his jaw was tightly clenched and his knuckles were tight and white.
I tapped on his face, torso and hands while I asked him to repeat the story. I asked Dave to recall as much detail as possible about the surroundings, the sounds, the temperature, smells and particularly his feelings, including his bodily sensation. We did this 3 or 4 times. Each time I asked him to just go over the events as best he could. When I was sure that his SUD's were down, I then asked him to talk about his anger and grief regarding the event. He blamed the commander for not taking enough safety measures and blamed him for being a "glory hunter" and sending out the guys into known dangers. This patrol was following a fresh trail into the jungle and had stepped right into the enemy bunkers. I then asked Dave to repeat statements after me while I tapped on his karate chop point:
Even though I did the best I could Jim got shot...
I should have got shot instead of Jim and then I wouldn't be carrying all this guilt and grief...
Jim may still have been killed even though I could have substituted for him...
It's not my fault Jim got shot even though it could have been me as well...
It was the commander's fault for being such a "glory hunter" and not caring about the outcomes...
The commander didn't know how to fight in this war and was going by the book...
Even though the commander didn't make a right decision this time, Jim may still have been killed later...
Even though I can see Jim's blue eyes looking at me, I now realize it was not Jim, it was just an empty shell that once housed my friend...
Even though it was a war and people die I did the best I could under the circumstances...
Even though I couldn't save my friend, I choose to remember him when he was alive...
Even though my friend died, I can honor his life by remembering the good times we had...
I checked with Dave the following day, and he told me he had the BEST sleep he has had in 30 years! Then the same again the next night. Previously Dave has lived with recurring nightmares and flashbacks.
After a week Dave told me he had not had any of the old negative emotions he was experiencing in the past 30 plus years. Most importantly is that the nightmares have not occurred since the EFT treatment.
Dave is going to continue to monitor the symptoms he previously had and let me know if there is a recurrence."
Rehana Webster is an advanced EFT practitioner based in New Zealand. Her contact email is: firstname.lastname@example.org and website: http://www.behaviourchanges.com
"I have had some unusual experiences with EFT which I would like to share.
I developed a bladder infection which escalated into a kidney infection. After nursing this by myself for some days I decided I had better go to the local hospital outpatients as I had a feeling I might not last through another night if I didn't. I was admitted and there they checked my blood pressure and it was very low - 48 over 40. The nurse was concerned and went to get the doctor, who said, within my hearing, that this was very serious and that I was on the verge of cardiac arrest. The nurse said she couldn't get any vital signs, i.e. pulse, etc. At hearing this, my first thought was I didn't have the energy to breathe and couldn't be bothered to anyway, and then my second was 'I could tap!' So, mentally, I visualized tapping and within minutes my blood pressure rose, and I survived, for which I am eternally grateful."
"My client Susan (not her real name) and her husband are coming in for couples counselling, something that is well suited to EFT. In one session we did a lot of work around Susan's feelings of intimidation in the relationship and a past memory of feeling over-powered by a very enthusiastic hug she received from her father as a 9-year-old girl. Her father was a very big man and little Susan felt totally swamped by the overpowering hug. She had never been able to tell her Dad how she felt and always got constricted in the throat just thinking about it.
We used a technique similar to watch the movie to work with the memory and also did rounds on the throat feeling. Susan visibly calmed down and could talk about the memory with very low levels of intensity.
In the next session Susan came in reporting that she had experienced a much greater freedom in her work as a photographer. She previously focused much of her attention on the Mum's and children in family sittings but now she could involve the Dad's much more. She also reported that in her other job as a fitness instructor she had been asked at short notice to work with a senior men's soccer team that week. Up to that point her work had been in a women's health club. Much to her surprise and delight she was able to do a great job in training this team where previously she would have had considerable difficulty in meeting the gaze of the men and getting her voice across in a powerful way.
Well must away, hope the EFT retreat is a great one."
Scott Jordan (scott_Jordan@optusnet.com.au)
"Use of Metaphors and EFT" By Rehana Webster
V is in her late 40's and had several partners, especially after her marriage ended. She came to see me about some EFT sessions and the pressing issue was one about picking the wrong partners. She was currently in another one of many relationships which was causing her much anguish and emotional upset.
I asked her to tell me what she thought the problem was (after tapping on several other issues) and she explained to me that she is an assertive, person, outgoing and friendly. She is attracted to men who admire her assertiveness and outgoing nature, however some time into the relationships things change and these partners turn the table and want her to take on the passive role.
In telling me her story V spontaneously made mention that she felt like the lioness on her circus stool and the partner like the lion tamer with his whip and chair in hand. She feels like she is hunched on her hind legs, snarling and baring her teeth while the partner is cracking his whip at her.
This was a perfect example and opportunity for me to take the metaphor generated by the client and use it with the EFT set-up statements. I casually wove the lioness/tamer into the statements and we tapped on:
Even though I feel cornered like the circus lioness in my relationships, I accept myself
Even though I'm powerful like the lioness, I've allowed by partners to reduce me into a cowering pussycat
Even though I choose the wrong partners, I'm a good person
Even though I want to continue being like the strong lioness I allow my partners to turn the tables on me
I let weaker men control me and now I need to choose partners who are my equal
I need to pick a lion rather than a lion tamer (she really like this one!)
I need to pick some one equal to me rather than someone I can dominate
Even though in the past I've been attracted to lion tamers, I now choose to pick partners who are "king of the jungle"
The effects on V were brilliant. She lit up like a bright light and laughed saying, I'm going to look for lions from now on rather than tamers!
I've used metaphors with clients before, however this session with V really highlighted the effectiveness of metaphor use. Clients can be helped if you ask them what nursery rhyme or Aesop's fable does their situation remind them of. They usually know best!
Rehana is based in New Zealand.
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"I've just got back from Surfers Paradise (went for a week off with Mum) and as you probably already know she has (had) a great fear of confined spaces and especially lifts. Anyway, she had popped out of the hotel and was a bit late coming back but when she came in through the door she was all smiles and laughing.
Turns out she had got in the hotel lift by herself and it went 2 floors (in the wrong direction) then stopped (doors still closed). Ordinarily she would have just completely lost it and had a meltdown but as she recounted to me she calmly tried pressing a few buttons and after a few false starts and about 5 minutes the lift started working again. She said she didn't even have to tap and was so proud of herself she couldn't stop grinning for the rest of the day. Of course she asked me to pass this on to you as she is just so pleased with herself."
I haven't been back for my fifth session with you as EFT has created a massive problem for me.... in the space of a few weeks I have created a tax bill that I thought would take me years. EFT has been the icing on my trading/investing cake.
By de-energising (rather than conceptualising) my accumulated self-sabotages I have allowed my unconscious competence to come to the fore and the abundance that this has created in my life is awesome.
EFT has allowed me to take my trading skills to an elite level. And best of all, I am having a ball in all areas of my life.
Thank you and I hope the ATO appreciates that you are increasing their revenue streams,
(ATO = Australian Tax Office)
Using EFT for Self-Doubt
Many of you will have read the article which I (SW) had published on Gary Craig's EFT Support Newsletter on "Using EFT for Self-Doubt". If you missed the article, you can read it in the Articles section on Gary Craig's website at: http://www.emofree.com/articles/self-doubt.htm
As a follow up to that article, we received a great deal of positive feedback but none more exciting than the following response by Colin Larcombe explaining how he used the techniques I outlined for treating his own issues.
(This is a copy of the post Colin wrote to Gary Craig, used with his permission):
I thought I would write to let you know about the success I am having after reading Steve's EFT for Self Doubt message. As you know I have already used EFT successfully for giving up alcohol (9 months now and despite an odd tappable pang, I have not drunk a thing).
I was recently made redundant and thought it was about time I changed my lifestyle.I have been an occassional option trader and thought I would give it a proper stab. All was going ok recently until some market jitters and I made some serious mistakes which virtually put me back to square one.
I was reading Steve's mail and I had thought about doing this before but never really got around to it. I thought this is the time to attack it. I wrote out in longhand all the things that could be considered negative, from very specific things like I resent giving up my early mornings to get the kids ready for school" to more general things like "I am petrified of wasting my life".
I then typed all of these items (72 and counting) into Excel and grouped them by subject. The main headings were GENERAL, MONEY, FAMILY, SEX, COMPUTER, TRADING and FRIENDS. Once I had this list I just went through each item building paragraphs with them and tapping at the same time. It was interesting to see just how many of these caused sighs (a sign for me that the negative energy associated is released).
Having taken 15 minutes to run through the first list, I then set about work with a remarkable sense of calm. I was able to prioritise most of my work and I got a relatively large amount done. Normally, I would think of something to do and then do it later or just surf on the web.
Now each day, when I get a negative thought, I just add to the list. Each morning before starting work, I print out the list and run through it.
What is fascinating is that it is as if cobwebs have been cleared from my mind. Whilst there are still some issues lurking it is amazing what freedom this gives and I have been able to make breakthroughs that had not been possible before.
Two of my phrases that are very telling are:
If I am the person I think I am then I should be winning.
I haven't got the life I want because my mind isn't clear enough.
I know that life offers many rewards and I am determined to get them. 99% of the battle though is getting the mindset right to create them though. This daily tapping technique is one step towards this."
All the best Colin
Sally’s Story: From Panic Attacks to Empowerment with EFT" By Jacqui Manning
I wanted to share with you one of my first and proudest moments using EFT with a client that I’ll call Sally.
"Sally was in her mid-forties and had experienced many traumas and troubles in her life, which were (literally!) written all over her face through worry lines, weathered lines and a general look of stress about her face and body.
At the time I saw Sally, I was working in an educational institution and she had come to do a very basic course to introduce her back into learning. Because she had been an alcoholic and homeless at various periods of her life, education had not been a top priority for her with her focus being mainly on survival.
Sally was referred to me for a housing issue, and happened to mention that she suffered from terrible panic attacks, probably amongst the worst I have ever encountered as a therapist in my years of counselling. It also involved having to avoid certain areas, modes of transport and the like, compulsive behaviours to reduce her anxiety.
So at the time, having recently been to Steve and David’s workshop, I asked her if she’d like to learn a tool that could help. She said yes and so began a transformation for Sally.
We did a few rounds on the bodily sensations she was experiencing in the room (“Even though I have this pounding heart....”, “Even though I have these shaky hands...”) and then I asked her to commit to tapping for 10 minutes in the morning and 10 at night. The morning sessions were to focus on the “Even though I’m scared of having a panic attack today....” and the evening sessions were to release any stressors she had experienced during her day.
Our next appointment was 2 weeks later and I was amazed at the physical transformation in Sally! She looked about 10 years younger because the lines had eased from her face (who needs facelifts these days?!) and her personal grooming had improved (cleaner clothes and better hair grooming), which suggested to me that she had the energy to do things like brush her hair because she had balanced so much of her anxious energy.
I continued to see Sally for a couple more sessions, and she went from strength to strength. She embraced EFT with gusto, and showed me the importance of doing continual and daily tapping. She found that she was able to re-create the feeling of calm and relaxation she would feel in the 10 minutes every morning and night while on campus, simply by rubbing the sore spot if she felt her anxiety rise. I didn’t need to see her anymore for the original issue, so it wasn’t for another 6 months that I caught up with her again.
She popped in to say hello and I was amazed even more! She looked fantastic and was very relaxed in her physicality and movements. She told me about her life now, that she had found permanent housing, that she was two thirds through a Diploma course (which was beyond her wildest dreams!) and she had made an inspiring speech in front of 200 classmates and family at the graduation ceremony for her entry level course!! This was no mean feat, for a woman whose life was fairly crippled and ruled by her panic attacks, and I asked her how she had made the changes – remembering that it had been 6 months since I had seen her and anything could have happened to help (like a lottery win!).
Sally looked at me and said, “In all honesty it was the tapping. I’ve been teaching all the workers and people where I used to live, it’s given me the confidence to move forward and get a life back”.
This was an incredibly moving moment in my career, and one I’ll never forget and really showed me the power of what EFT can do for empowering people into getting the life they want and overcoming any hurdles that may have happened in their lives."
Just after my father passed away, I received the following email from John Allan, on his experiences using EFT with his own heart troubles – As I wrote to him at the time, it is refreshing in the middle of grieving my father’s death to hear of someone having such a positive outcome. Here is a copy of his email to me.
"Happy new year Steve,
You may recall that, in the past, I have reported the successful use of EFT for pain control for some people who have attended the various cancer support groups that our organisation convenes. In the several months leading up to October last year, I had personal experience of the use of EFT to control my own (increasing) chest and angina pain. On a number of occasions, I found that EFT was the one thing, apart from the prescribed medicines such as nitro-lingual that actually worked. I know that those of us with heart disease (my sister refers to it as dickie tickers) must always carry such angina relief as is prescribed, however occasionally I was apt to forget to do so and I am certain that I am only alive now, because of my knowledge of EFT.
In the early days of October last year, I was given a prognosis of just three months because of a sudden increase in the deterioration of my heart. This rather poor prognosis was the culmination of several such considerations by three doctors.
Now, as you know, I deal with the aspects of death and dying consistently because of my work, and so I think I was in much better shape to hear these words than many people, however, when told that one’s life expectancy is only going to be around 90 days, it does make you stop and think. Once again, I turned to EFT and along with as many other techniques as I could muster, (it was hellishly difficult to meditate) I believe that, psychologically and emotionally, my life was kept on a somewhat even keel. I used EFT more often than what had become my normal daily practice, and although some of my work took a back seat for a while, I was able to carry on pretty much as normal.
I asked myself what I wanted from life, identified the feelings associated with those goals – and tapped! And tapped, and tapped. I felt pretty damned good, I must say.
After a week or two, (and after being told repeatedly that there was nothing medically to be done), I decided to tap on the positives of finding a doctor who could help. Now, I’m not saying that I wouldn’t have met this specialist anyway, but by the time I did meet the man who became my surgeon, I was calm, collected and ambivalent toward any outcome, through my use, I believe, of EFT in particular.
Steve, I’m here to sing it’s praises. I’ve now had the opportunity to dramatically demonstrate the effectiveness of the technique as an adjunct to controlling depression, for achieving abundance and goals and for pain control. Five weeks after my surgery, I feel great. I now expect (God willing) to live a life with a good prognosis and I am sure that EFT will be something that I shall use every day and to demonstrate to as many people as possible. I’m teaching an adult education class at one of the local tech colleges here in the ACT this coming semester and you can bet that EFT will be a part of the curriculum.
Have a great year",John Allan
Cancer Management and Education
"Last month I tried PET with a Reflexology student of mine who was going for a smoke break at my course. She smelled tar! In 2 minutes with contradictory statements (such as) “I really love this AND I hate it ... I don’t want to smoke now but I want to smoke now, ... etc” She went outside, lit the cigarette and started feeling nausea, rejecting the smoke and finished (just) ¼ of the cigarette. A week later she said she practiced a few times what I showed her, smoked only twice (had been smoking about 6-7 a day) then quit. She is amazed."
Jean-Louis DUBE, Ottawa, CANADA
"Way cool! That's my summation of your workshops. I checked in with myself this morning on some of the painful issues that came up and guess what? Zip, nada, nutting.
For example...feeling and knowing even in the womb that I was unwanted.... my NEW thought is 'what the heck. It doesn't matter I got here. I'm here now.'
Tapped a lot on the plane rides home. Thanks (to Kristelle and Kerry) for pulling this together and sharing your relationship with us with such honesty."
Annette Vaillancourt (Attended Self-Acceptance and Power of Connection workshops in Albuquerque)
"Katie's Story" by Jacqui Manning
"Katie came along to one of my presentations at the Mind Body Spirit Festival in Sydney, and participated in the brief workshop (I only had half an hour!), which basically involved teaching the Shortcut EFT method, encouraging the audience to focus on a minor pain or tension in their body.
At the end of my talk, as I was checking in with people to see how they were after a few rounds of tapping, a young girl, Katie, mentioned that the pain she had been tapping for, had increased and she now had sharp pains shooting up her neck!
Obviously, not wanting to leave her in this state, I spent some time tapping with Katie for "this shooting pain, "this emotion my neck is struggling to let go", "Even though it’s painful to release this pain" etc. We settled her down to a 2 or 3, which I was happy enough with, considering she was previously at a 9 or 10! She bought a "Pocket Guide to EFT" and I encouraged her to come to a private session with me, as she wanted to really work on her posture.
When I met Katie, she was somewhat hunched over, and not aligned, in that she leaned to one side. She felt that doing the initial tapping had helped her release some intense anger towards a family member (her grandmother) which she’d been struggling to acknowledge, let alone resolve. We did some tapping for any remaining tension around "releasing the remaining Grandma from her neck", "even though she’s been a pain in my neck for years", "I choose to let Grandma go" and she felt enormous freedom in her neck, building on the release from the MBS Festival.
She came for several private sessions, and by the second one she said she was no longer having "nasty thoughts" about her grandmother, which was a huge achievement for her as her anger towards her had dominated her mind and emotions for many years. Katie’s first couple of sessions with me were difficult to follow. She talked a lot, telling me stories of past pain including sexual abuse, without much coherence or sequencing.
In one of our early sessions, she brought up a belief that she had had at school, which was she was "thick", so we did some polarity tapping for "I am thick" and "I am clever" and after one round, she said "But I’m not!" and looked more confident in the way she was holding herself.
Following a couple of sessions, Katie started to transform.
Her posture had improved out of sight, and she looked more relaxed in her face, was able to look me in the eye much more and we were able to conduct a more structured session, with Katie’s stories having a beginning, middle and end.
Another powerful session focused on visualising her damaged womb (from child abuse) and tapping through:
"Even though I was hurt & scratched"
"Even though I reject my womb and womanhood, I deeply love and accept myself"
"Even though being a woman is painful I love and accept myself".
She had previously visualised her womb as a black, painful place, but following our session, she saw her womb shaped as a heart emanating a beautiful pink light spreading through her body.
Katie is a fabulous client, doing lots of homework in between sessions (and augmenting the EFT with visualisations and meditations) and very committed to healing.
We are still working together, and she appears as a different person to me (after 6 sessions) and it is testament to the fantastic work EFT does as well as to Katie’s commitment that she has achieved such amazing results. I look forward to seeing Katie achieve her dreams!"
"Looking in the Mirror" by Lenore (Lennie) Watts
I wanted to share with you one of my first and proudest moments using EFT with a client that I’ll call Sally.
I have been using EFT with clients for over 6 years and usually achieve excellent results. So you can imagine my recent frustration (and my clients) when the usual great results did not occur with several clients! At first I thought we were not tapping into the 'real issues' however I soon noticed a common theme. All of these clients mentioned not being able to access their emotions when doing EFT (even though the emotions came flooding in at times when they were not using the technique). This was quite different to having the emotion processed and released though the tapping. It was more a case of becoming 'shut down or numb' while doing the technique.
I thought about this and it occurred to me that perhaps doing the technique itself was interrupting the process. for these clients. I also wondered if more visual stimulation could help. It was interesting to note that all these clients had successful careers and all but one was male.
So I tried EFT with these clients in a different way. I sat the client looking into a mirror and had them talk about themselves while I tapped on them. The results with these clients have been really wonderful, with all of them having huge emotional shifts. I recently did this with a client Greg, who was able to finally grieve for the father he lost to suicide (which the family was told to keep secret) thirty years earlier. I placed Greg in front of the mirror and began tapping on him. I then asked:
LW: "What sort of person are you Greg"
Greg: "I'm successful at work ...good at business it's easy. I'm a quiet kind of guy really I suppose."
LW: "As you sit here, describe what you look like?'
Greg: (pause) ..." I'm wearing a blue shirt, bit overweight, lots of grey hair, brown eyes..."
LW: "Who do you look like most in the family?"
Greg: "My father"
LW: As you look in the mirror and see your father, what is that like for you?"
Greg: (beginning to cry) "It's awful, I feel ashamed"
LW: "What is the shame about?"
By this time Greg was accessing and processing his emotions. I continued tapping while Greg talked about how having to keep his fathers death a secret and looking like his father made him feel like it wasn't safe to access his emotions or to be 'noticed' too much in the family. He said he often felt like he wanted to hide. Greg also talked about how frightened he was that because he looked like his father that perhaps he was like his father and would commit suicide himself one day. He then began to talk about the loss he felt of not having his father around and how much he missed him. There was quite a lot of crying during this process however I continued to tap on him throughout. At the end of the session Greg said he felt calm looking at himself in the mirror (something he had not felt for thirty years) and lighter. Greg was also able to talk freely about his feelings in later sessions and use the EFT technique successfully himself. I am always humbled by the power of EFT and how it helps to relieve so much suffering - even if it takes a little creativity at times!
"Pamela Overcomes Show Jumping Fear - Finds Help With Cancer Battle"
by Pat Ahearne
Note from Steve Wells: Many of you may remember Pat Ahearne as the baseball pitcher who used EFT to win the Pitcher of the Year Award in the Australian Baseball League (See: http://www.eftdownunder.com/performance.html#Testimonials ). Pat is now using EFT to help others to achieve sporting and personal success. Here he discusses his work to assist a woman with a show jumping fear.
Pamela spoke about a feeling of being "psyched out" at times when training on her show jumping horse. We began applying EFT to feelings of getting thrown in the dirt, losing control of the horse, and tensing up ANTICIPATING the animal spooking. The results we got were fairly immediate with a lessening of the tension in her body and a feeling of the whole scene "slowing down" for her. These feelings were brought down to a zero intensity after about 30 minutes of work resulting in a "natural" ride she had not experienced in over 8 months. Her trainer even commented it was the most relaxed and most assertive with her horse he had ever seen her. Pamela also reported an energized feeling "like I had a cup of coffee" after releasing these energy draining emotions.
As an added benefit to this treatment we discovered the same feelings of getting thrown from her horse and the animal spooking for no reason could be accessed when going into a presentation at work. The horse jumping and work issues were treated simultaneously as they were basically the same feeling allowing a more natural feeling giving work presentations.
Unfortunately, Pamela is also undergoing cancer surgery and treatment. We started first by testing the truth and intensity level of the statement "I have emotional cancer" which provoked an image of a large, menacing, black mass that was her image of cancer. This session of EFT brought that from the "black ugly mass" to a white, fluffy and much more playful sort of feeling for her and removed any truth to the statement "I have emotional cancer".
Below is the paragraph Pamela wrote summarizing the experience in her own words. Have a good trip.
"Following a succession of horseback riding accidents, I met with Patrick to work on a fear reaction I had been been unable to banish in spite of riding a new show jumper. After one session, I was able to ride 'naturally' and confidently again and had completely lost the almost paralyzing fear that had been a part of each ride for almost 8 months. My trainer noticed the remarkable difference and stating that it was the 'best riding I had done with the new horse'. The unexpected result of my work with Patrick is the impact these techniques have had beyond my sport. He has also shown me how to use these skills in to be more effective in my career and and battle with cancer."
"The Goldfish" by Louise Wells
"Tapping is such a great technique that gets used in our home every day. We use it for all the simple things that can otherwise escalate into big problems like scary monsters and not being able to sleep. A recent experience with our daughter Olivia convinced me that even an inexpert tapper can get great results...
Our 7 year old daughter Olivia purchased a new Goldfish a few weeks ago so Jack the goldfish had a friend. When I was putting Olivia to bed that same evening "Mini" the new goldfish was looking extremely unwell and looking like not surviving the night and Olivia was crying and getting quite upset. Usually at this point I call for Steve as I never quite do the tapping right (the kids say) and why not use the professional in the house! He was busy doing other things however - I think lying on the lounge - so I thought I'll give it a go and then go and get Steve. To my surprise after a few rounds of random tapping and not saying anything much to her, she went from a sobbing mess to happily laughing, the shift was amazing, and she then fell asleep fairly quickly. Of course the goldfish was dead in the morning, but Olivia was still Ok about it. We went to a different shop and bought a new Mini that I'm glad to say is still swimming."
"Tapping for cancer"
"In June and July 2005, I participated in two level 1 EFT workshops - one in England with Judy Bryne and one in Singapore with Steve Wells. Both workshops were milestone programmes for me. I planned to take part in Gary's workshop in Manchester, England in early September 2005, but on the very date of the workshop, I ended up having to have a malignant tumour removed from my breast. Shortly afterwards I was informed that I had a grade 3 cancer and that I would need chemotherapy, radiotherapy and hormone treatment over a period of months and years of follow-up drugs. It was a shocking piece of news at the time.
At the time of writing this, I have finished six cycles of chemotherapy and one month of radiotherapy. I wanted to share some reflections with people who are learning about EFT.
I have used EFT daily throughout my treatment. Learning the skill of using EFT was very timely for me. I tapped throughout each injection of chemotherapy drugs, much to the amusement of the nurse (who made a note of Gary's site out of curiosity, but never looked it up it seems). On Steve Wells' advice, I have done 'imaginary' tapping during each radiotherapy treatment whilst lying under the machine.
In parallel with tapping, I have also looked at my nutrition (including alcohol and caffeine intake), my lifestyle, work stress and made some adjustments. I have learned Reiki healing and use that daily on myself too.
The effect of this has been that I have minimised all side effects which some say can be debilitating. I have been able to work throughout my treatment and many people have told me that I look healthier compared to before. One of the main results for me of tapping is that I am much more objective about things that happen, less emotionally wrapped up and freer therefore to have a lightness of touch which didn't exist in me before. An example of this relates to my healthcare experience. In the past I would have gotten wrapped up in the inefficiencies of the health system, the inadequacies in the care of the nurses etc but I did not allow these things to absorb my energy. Instead I used my energy proactively to learn, to make changes, to cope with daily life.
My experience of cancer has actually been quite a gift. It has opened up new ways to live which are healthier for me than my ways before my cancer diagnosis. The future is unpredictable but the weird thing is that I am okay with that."
Gabrielle (Name changed for privacy purposes)
Relief for a Grief Issue
"Although I don't actively seek out EFT clients sometimes a situation like the one below just happens. I was walking on the boardwalk one day and met Judy who I hadn't seen for a nine months as she had moved to another city. She told me about the passing of her her husband, Brian, who had been suffering with cancer which had spread throughout his body. She was quite cheerful and said it was three months ago and she was doing well. She said "We must catch up while I am here" but no arrangements were made.
A few days later Judy turned up at my doorstep and we started talking about the last weeks with Brian and how she had been caring for him at home. She seemed so composed until I asked her how it was for her during this time. She immediately burst into tears and couldn't talk. I suggested that we might do a round of EFT and we started off with the phrase "This sadness in my heart". I was amazed that after one round, she just started talking again and then once again after five minutes the tears came again and she was unable to continue. We did another round of EFT and once again she was completely okay and continued. In the whole conversation, we only did three rounds altogether. The she said thanks and that she felt much better and left.
Several weeks later I met someone who said Judy had told them that I had helped her to make a huge shift in her life. I am awed that in situations of such magnitude that sometimes it doesn't take very much to help move the issue."
Shanti Bezard, Western Australia
"Olivia and the Dentist" by Louise Wells
"We were advised by the orthodontist that our 7 1/2 year old daughter Olivia would need to have 4 baby eye teeth removed in order to allow the adult teeth to come through in the correct positions. He suggested she could either have them removed in the chair or under general anesthetic. As she had coped extremely well having a cap put on another tooth with a local anesthetic we decided to have them removed two at a time by the local dentist. In the dentist's room while the local anesthetic was starting to take effect I noticed that Olivia was looking a little bit upset and teary so I asked the dentist if she could explain to Olivia what was going to happen to her. At this point I could see Olivia was getting more and more upset so I asked her if she would like me to do some tapping for her. She said yes, so I began tapping on her face points and after a few minutes she started to calm down and the tears stopped. I then had to explain to the amazed dentist and her assistant what on earth I was doing! Throughout this time Olivia's brother Callum kept asking "When is it my turn? I want a turn!" (Which wasn't helping, I can assure you!)
By this time the anesthetic had numbed the area and it was time to start the teeth removal. Olivia was ok to start, but asked that I continue the tapping. I stood out of the way of the dentist and tapped on her hand points throughout the procedure. The Dentist and assistant were very impressed about Olivia's turnaround so I said I would bring back some EFT information on our next visit. On the way home in the car Olivia was very upset, she had managed to control her emotions with the help of the tapping to get through the dental procedure, but was still feeling pretty awful and it now all came out. We got home and I realized that although I had done some tapping on myself in the car on the way home, I was also feeling awful - how could I have let my child go through such a horrible thing. I had felt the need to tap myself in the dentist, but was too busy concentrating on Olivia and I suppose she was picking up on my upset as well. So we all did some more tapping once we got home - called in the expert (Steve) and were all fine in a little while.
Two weeks later we needed to go back to the dentist for the removal of the other two teeth. Olivia had already decided to take her copy of Rose & the Night Monsters to show the dentist. Steve did a little bit of tapping with her before she went (although she was more interested in eating her lunch than having a session with Dad!). The dentist and assistant were very impressed with the book and took some EFT cards to show other clients. Olivia sailed through the procedure, not requiring any tapping. I knew she was fine when she asked me "What's for Dinner?" through a mouth full of gauze before we even left the reception area!"
Kylie Russell, a participant in our Melbourne Self-Acceptance and Sydney Energy Techniques for Trading workshops, sent us this report of her success in using EFT to treat pain:
"I have now had two clients/friends come to me for extreme pain in their backs. The first one couldn't stand up straight, could sit down but then couldn't get back up again and was clearly in severe pain. When I saw him, I thought.... Oh no, I'm not sure I can do anything to help this guy, and I told him that, saying: "I don't know whether I can help you or not. I've never worked with anyone who was experiencing the amount of pain that you are, but we can try and see what happens."
I began by saying "This pain in my back" and after a couple of minutes we weren't getting a lot of results. I became more specific. He couldn't bend over or straighten, so we said "even though I can't bend over" and "even though I can't straighten my back", and within one round I saw the change in his eyes, and he said - "something is different, it's working!"
We continued to work specifically on the pain and restriction he was experiencing, including "even though I can't turn to the side" and "even though my movements are restricted", until the pain was gone. He then looked at me and said (with wonder in his eyes) "what did you do?" He proceeded to run and jump out to my living room where his friend, who had been waiting for him, looked at us in surprise!
The second client came to me in a similar amount of pain. I had previously suggested EFT to him on many occasions and he was extremely resistant to the idea. This time, I think he was in so much pain that he was prepared to try anything. I had more confidence this time, having experienced the results of the first client. In disbelief, he tapped along with me, and immediately had an improvement in his movements and pain level. We continued, and with each round, his pain disappeared more. He was astounded, saying "I can't believe that really works". In both cases, it took around 15 minutes to go from pain levels of 10 to zero."
"Clearing a 40-Year Old Secret Memory" by Linda Foster
Our thanks to Linda Foster who contributed this inspiring account of her success in clearing a crucial childhood memory at the May Tapping into Success and Abundance Workshop. Ultimately, Linda’s story is a testament to the power of persistence, the value of continual tapping, and the power of borrowing benefits gained by tapping along with others in a supportive workshop setting. Her story should prove instructive for practitioners of these techniques and offer hope and inspiration to others who have been struggling to clear their own childhood issues.
"Hi Carol and Steve,
Thank you both so much for an amazing workshop. The effects, both personally and professionally, have been profound.
It was like a mini retreat and I am sure that all the EFT workshops and continual tapping that I have been doing over the years culminated in the change in me that took place last weekend.
A memory (secret) that I have been holding onto for over 40 years has been cleared. On Monday night, after the workshop I was able for the first time to tell the story in full to my husband. There were no tears or any sign of distress, although I did some very gentle finger tapping just in case.
I would like to share with you in more detail what happened as I feel it may benefit others who would like to clear their baggage but fear that it needs to be a traumatic experience. I was able to clear this memory using borrowing benefits and I believe for me it was the safest option.
I had thought that it was my performance anxiety that prevented me from going up and working with you on stage. However, whilst I believe that is partly true, I now feel that my need for safety was the priority. I dissociated instantly whenever I remembered this event. There were so many fears associated with it. I would get caught up in the brain freeze and then feel humiliated, embarrassed and ashamed. So, tapping along with other peoples issues, that resonated with mine, allowed my body to safely deal with the traumatic memories and feelings.
I'd like to share with you what happened.
Over 40 years ago, a traumatic event occurred and I made the decision to, not tell anyone.
About 10-12 years ago, in a moment of distress I made a simple one line statement to my husband about the event, then I closed off again, deciding again, not to speak about it.
2 weeks ago, after watching a television program about the missing Beaumont children, I found myself in the shower sobbing uncontrollably. I couldn't speak, so after about 5 minutes I composed myself and once again shut down the feelings and the memories.
On Friday afternoon, after Carol had completed the segment on guilt and shame the memory came up again. I turned to Geoff who was sitting beside me, mentioned it, which was unusual in itself given that I'd never spoken about it before to anyone other than my husband. Geoff then spent time with me making sure I was okay to get home. I was okay, but was exhausted.
At home, I found myself mindlessly watching TV and eating from a jar of cashew nuts, when I finally realised what I was doing. I recognised that maybe this was why I had problems with my weight and had no desire to exercise. I went to bed early that night, fell into a deep sleep but woke at 2.30am with thoughts flying around in my head. I felt like I was trying to catch them, desperately trying to put them back into a safe place. But I couldn't. At about 4am I went back to sleep.
For the next 2 days, I continually tapped on whatever feelings arose during the various workshop segments. I just let them rise and fall, no resistance. I resonated with so many feelings and occasionally the stories that so many people kindly offered to share. I sat in the group, fully present, my memory (secret) just sitting in the back of my mind. It was a gentle releasing, like a huge load being slowly lifted off my body.
Then, on the Monday night after the workshop I told the full story to my husband with no reactions (from me) other than a moment of sadness, when I reflected on missing the connection that I didn't and still don't have, with my father. Then that too was gone.
My story -
I had been a Brownie and Girl Guide for many years. When I was about 11 years old, I had to catch a bus for about 40 minutes to get to the closest group available. My local group had unfortunately closed down some months earlier. The bus stop was about 2 minutes walk from home and I was entrusted to go by myself.
One afternoon as the bus was approaching my stop, a man approached me for directions. My dilemma - get on the bus or be a good Girl Guide and help the man. I let the bus go. He thanked me, then apologised for causing me to miss my bus and of cause offered to drive me there. Another dilemma - do I refuse a "kind" offer - that would be rude and discourteous or I do what I was taught and not accept rides from strangers.
As we started to walk towards his car, all kinds of thoughts were going through my brain. When he started asking what I thought were personal and strange questions, I ran for my life. Fortunately I was the fastest sprinter in my class at school so I got away quickly and ran down a walkway between houses to a cul de sac at the rear of my home. I was absolutely terrified, heart pounding - I felt like I was going to explode with fear.
Then another dilemma. What was I going to tell my parents? Mum would be okay but Dad was a different story. I knew he had beaten my sister black and blue for something she had done. Although she was telling the truth, he didn¹t believe her and that was the punishment. So I made a decision to tell them that I had gotten distracted at the shops which I had to walk by and therefore missed my bus. I would not even mention the man.
I think I was hoping, that because I'd missed the bus I wouldn't have to go to Girl Guides (that would be my punishment) and I'd have the night to deal with what had occurred. However, my parents obviously thought I needed to go and my father drove me there. He was absolutely furious about taking me. He did not say one word the whole time but his body language said it all. Once again I was terrified, plus I now had the thought that I was back out there where the man was.
That was one of the longest car trips of my life. When I arrived at Girl Guides I had to run through a playing field (about 100 yards) to get to the building. Then after the group, when it was dark I had to run through this field again, terrified that the man might be there, then wait by myself at the bus stop on the main road for the bus to take me home.
I was so glad to see my mother waiting for me at the bus stop when I arrived home. It was the first time I had felt safe all night. I don't remember what I said to her, but I never went to Girl Guides again.
As I lay in bed that night, and for many nights there after, I felt so guilty that I had not told anyone. I now felt responsible for any girl who may have been taken by that man and for anything that he did to her. I kept a vigilant eye out for any news reports on missing children, although I wasn't sure what I would do. I just kept feeling guilty and ashamed.
So this is the story that I told my husband. What is really freaky though, is that my husband had had a similar experience when he was a child. He then told me that when he was about 8 years old, a man tried to lure he and his brother into a car with lollies. So he knew the feelings and thoughts that run through your mind. He had very similar reactions and he remembered the pain in the chest from running so hard. He had to drag his younger brother away, as the man followed them a short distance in his car, until they were able to get home. His story had a happier ending as his mother was home and he could tell her what had happened. Oddly enough his father wasn't told nor were the police involved.
At last I felt that someone had listened to me, understood and validated my story. No judgments. My husband also told me that after I had gone to sleep, he had an image of me as that terrified young girl and he felt sad that no-one was there for me. He actually shed a tear for me. I really found that so touching that at last someone cared about me in that situation. I wasn't alone and it wasn't my fault. I was no longer in trouble or responsible for every young girl alive at that time. What a relief. I felt loved.
For so long I believed that I should feel guilty and ashamed. No wonder I struggled with making decisions and feared being who I am. Yes, I do still have other issues to clear and I probably still have performance anxiety, but its okay for me to take one step at a time.
The changes in me are noticeable - I know it’s not the usual workshop euphoria. My husband asked me yesterday, if you were giving out happy pills at the workshop. I'm not reacting in my usual ways. I feel as though I have cleared a major leg (roots and all) of my self worth/esteem/value issue or should I say lack thereof. I feel a deep sense of peace resonating from within me and a joy that I really can't describe.
Since doing your 100% Success workshop last year Steve, I have become clear on what's important to me. My number one value is bliss - a combination of peace, love and joy. The feeling that I am now experiencing is a baby version of bliss. It’s probably about 5% of what is possible. But it is there and I now know its ok for me to let it grow.
That for me is success and abundance.
Also, I'm different with my clients. It’s hard to articulate how that is, but I feel more contained, in a healthy way, (not contracted) within myself, I laugh a lot more with them, I'm not afraid to be direct and honest. Maybe it is because I don't feel like a fraud, who is hiding a big secret. It doesn¹t really matter anymore. I'm also really listening to them and trusting what comes intuitively to me. If I get it wrong, they tell me and I still feel okay. It's useful information and I don't need to get it right or be perfect. I think there's a softening that has come about as a consequence. Also, I don't need to save 'them' anymore. What a relief that is - I know I was only trying to save myself.
It’s all good and once again I say a huge thank you to both of you for providing the environment of safety and the support that has allowed me to do the work needed. This is a powerful tool in the right hands.
In a subsequent email, Linda explains further:
"I should, explain what I meant about the 5%... Before it was only on the rarest occasion that I would feel bliss and only for short periods of time. Now, however I feel 5% bliss all the time. Although right at the moment it probably is around the 40% mark. So it truly its all good. I really do feel let out of the prison. I highly recommend it to anyone wanting change.
Thank you to both you and Carol for the incredible work that you do.
Much love to you both."
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"You have armed me with a very dangerous tool that I am now unleashing upon others.
I am currently in New York City and went to see Hugh Jackman on Broadway in The Boy from Oz. After the show I went to the stage door along with 200 or so other people to see him come out.
Eventually he did, but he was signing autographs on the other side and had his back to me (and the other 100 or so around me). People were calling out and whistling but alas he did not turn around for us to take photos.
So a quick mental EFT round and I took a deep breath and then let rip with a very loud coo ee . Well he immediately spun around laughing trying to see who the source was but I was laughing so hard at his reaction (and standing about 6 people back) that I couldn't get another one out.
Never mind, the look on his face was priceless. Ah the diversity for employing EFT.
I think the people around me needed to do some too after the looks I was receiving!"
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