By David Lake What do you say and do when you use Tapping (EFT and/or SET) for a relationship problem? Where do you start? One of the most misunderstood concepts in relationship therapy is the goal of treatment. You may be surprised to find that in the field, this often… Read More »Relationships
By David Lake How do you help a couple to use EFT or SET together? Well, it’s like teaching them to have sex “properly”. First, they must develop trust and faith in you. Then there are the detailed instructions. Last, a little demonstration. Then they might abandon the teaching while keeping… Read More »Working with Couples
By David Lake Note: This article is written with the common minor and moderate relationship problems we all experience in mind. It suggests self-help without extra professional help. It is not meant to offer pat solutions for heavy-duty issues, such as a chronically depressed partner. Being in relationship with anyone… Read More »How to Live with the ‘Bad’ Partner
By David Lake I know of a sure way to ruin your relationship. Be a critic. Of all the relationship poisons, this is the deadliest, over time, and guaranteed never to improve the quality of your life. I suggest that EFT is the most useful antidote to this poison. The urge to… Read More »Criticism
By David Lake I maintain that relationship work is sometimes ‘fraught with peril’ due to the intensity of the painful emotional reactions unleashed in the context of bickering, struggling, fighting, and enduring the partner’s ‘doing what they do’. This is far worse than merely a ‘wrinkle in the great silk… Read More »What would love do here?
By David Lake I think it is no accident that the leaders in the field of Energy Psychology have strong spiritual connections that inform their work. This aspect of the field is not emphasized although I find it to be an integral part. I wonder whether the practice of Energy… Read More »Relationship and Spirituality